Why is that divorced people lose their friends? I recently divorced. It is a couple that my ex-husband and I are fairly since college for 10 years. It actually started with the guys "to be roommates. We got married first and then a year later, they did as well. I became friends with the woman's roommate.
Fast forward 10 years later, I made some mistakes and wrong my friend. Since that time, my marriage began to disintegrate. I need someone to talk with my own grief. I trust it will be neutral, because her husband is friends with my ex. It was difficult for one reason or deal with my divorce.
Even though I was wrong, I apologized and tried to be there for her, because she was going through hard times too. Once I sent him money for no reason and told me to use the money for herself. Shortly after, we talked a little and she had the nerve to ask me if I meant to try to be friends with her. I reminded him about the money I sent him. It was out of friendship. I was so wrong, so I decided not to be friends with her.
I stopped talking to him and he was more than six months. only thing I have done since sent him a Christmas card photo of my children. I have received nothing from them.
What do I do now? Should I try to communicate with her? Should I forget that I was still friends with her?
I think you made a reasonable attempt to try to save the friendship ... A friendship like any relationship needs two people to make an effort to make it last. A person can not do it alone. I think you have shown that the friendship was more important to you ... Does not look like she has made an effort to show that it is always important to her.
I would not say that you made an error ... You did not tell him everything about what is happening in your life and every person is well within their rights to have certain parts of their lives kept private, even among friends.
I disagree with others who have answered the question by assuming that giving money friend was an attempt to "buy" their friendship. I do not see that as appropriate. You have been simply to point out that friends do things for each other, without hope of repayment and when she questioned your friendship and you pointed out the money you gave him you were just giving an example of something you did out of friendship.
I would say it's his loss. It is too late to save the friendship if it refuses to recognize your efforts ... The ball is in his court and has apparently decided to sit on the bench.
Perhaps track the shipment of its cards for the holidays or whatever. Maybe someday she'll get the hint.
It is clear she does not talk to you more. You talk like a borderline stalker.
Go already!
and im afraid it sounds like u messed that one up! I'd say go:)
Leave him alone. She may also face your ex-husband.
for her
I stop trying to contact her. If you sent the money and for no reason except for her to splurge a little on herself, she understands that you tried to renew ties with her. But something else is overriding his answer: Maybe she never really trust you again after a mistake. So at this point, just chalk that one mistake you have had serious consequences.
You can not force someone to be your friend. Do not try to contact her. I've been in this situation before me. You should know that the person always knows how to contact you. She could find you if she wanted. She could call you if she wanted. It does not then let go. Learn from this.
As sad as divorce.
Posted on February 12, 2010.
